Building Bridges, Not Walls: A Job Search Rant from the Trenches

Job hunting is tough — no two ways about it. And while most folks have been kind enough to take my calls and hear my pitch, that’s usually where things end. I spent over a decade in an industry where I could help people get work. If someone was struggling, I could at least give them a warm introduction: a real conversation with a decision maker, honest feedback, a shot on merit. I wasn’t batting a thousand, but I always tried.

So yeah… I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t stung that the same goodwill hasn’t really come back my way.

I’ve been un/underemployed for two years now. Early on, when I was still fighting imposter syndrome, I can understand why people only saw “bartender/bar manager” on my résumé. Even I still saw myself that way. And I’d get questions like:

“Do you really want to code all day? Isn’t that boring compared to what you used to do?”

But the truth is… I live for this now.

I spend my days solving problems that look impossible at first glance, breaking them down, discovering the unknown unknowns, wrestling through them, and stitching solutions together from the ground up. I’m at the point where — with humility — I feel like I can take on almost anything in tech/IT. Not because I think I’m some prodigy, but because I’m stubborn enough to figure things out and keep going when I hit a wall.

Still, here I am: in a small town hours from a major market, not wanting to return to the rat race, eager to help the community around me, and feeling like no one’s buying what I’m selling.

I’m taking the rest of the year off from my job search because mentally… I need a break. It’s exhausting to wake up every day feeling useful, capable, hungry to learn — and yet feel like the world has no use for me.

I’m fortunate. I have support, a roof, food. But that doesn’t make the silence any easier. People love my free work, but the second I try to set a value on my time or skills? Crickets.

It wears on you.

I’m sharing this not to guilt anyone, not to beg for favors, but because someone out there might relate — or might be in a position to help someone else who feels this way. If you are a decision maker, a recruiter, someone with a network, someone who can open a door or make a warm introduction… please do. Maybe not for me. Maybe for someone else who’s drowning quietly.

If tech is really a community, then we need more bridge-builders and fewer wall-builders. More people lifting juniors up instead of gatekeeping them out. More empathy. More curiosity. More humanity.

Thanks for reading. And if you do have actionable advice or opportunities — I’m here, listening, still hopeful.

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